THIS IS DEDICATED TO THE HOPELESS ROMANTICS



So here's a total disclosure. This isn't going to be a sappy love post, nor is it going to be the answer to all your relationship problems. I am no relationship guru (I mean, clearly.) Truthfully, Im just trying to figure it all out myself. I was really hesitant about writing this post because I tend to keep my personal life very private, which is really important in this age of social media. It's important to do things just for the sake of doing them because you want to, not because it'll look good on your Insta feed. Ok back to what I was saying - sorry I have a serious problem of getting sidetracked haha!

This is a dedication post to all my fellow ladies who held onto hope for far too long. To the ladies who have been broken down by a boy whom they gave their all to. This is for the girls who think they "need" him, so they stick through all the bullshit and forgive him. This is for all the females who suffer from anxiety or depression and worry that leaving him might make matters worse. This is for the ones who stay with him even though he makes their anxiety or depression worse. This is for all the ladies who toss and turn at night having nightmares about him lying with another woman. Who lose their appetite and feel like puking every time the thought of his infidelity and lies come to mind. Who have this horrible knot in their stomach that they can't seem to shake. This is for the ones whose intuition tells them he's not being real, but choose to ignore it instead. This is for all the ladies who gave him way too many chances. This is for the ladies that took him back before making him prove that he has changed. This is for the ladies who stayed because of the fancy dinners and lavish lifestyle. This is for all the ladies who got dozens of roses sent to their job because he felt guilty about hurting you, but never actually got his act together.






Anyone who knows me can tell you that I’m very much a “relationship person”, some will even call me a “relationship hoe.” Yeah, I didn’t think that was a thing either, but apparently anything you do nowadays gets criticized. Truth is, I am a hopeless romantic. I believe in true love and all the sappy shit. Its an amazing feeling to share great experiences with your counterpart. However, in this day and age it serves as a big challenge to cherish relationships the way that us "Hopeless romantics" do. I'm learning to be much more selective now and content with my own company. I’ve realized that my need to be needed by someone comes from the absence of my father in my life. I never wanted to admit to myself that I have Daddy issues, but admitting is really the first step. And truth is, I don’t want anyone to NEED me anymore. That never leads anywhere good.  I won’t go into detail on this subject just yet - look out for an upcoming post with more on this topic soon. It should be a good one! lol

This is for all the ladies who really started to believe that they were crazy because he always reminded you how much you were and boyyyy were his manipulative words so persuasive. So poisonous. Like venom shooting into your skin from the teeth of a snake. They burn too, just like it. But there is always an antidote. Mine was self love. Never think your value is based on someone else's inability to love you the way you deserve.




The main message I am trying to convey in this post is to know your worth ladies (& men, too where it applies.) Stay true to your values and your standards (as long as they aren't impossible). Once you start to make exceptions for people, that's the first step to failure. You literally allowed yourself to be in a situation you didn't want to be in because you thought maybe you were being too harsh with your standards. We have standards for a reason! I have a knack for doing this and the relationship fails. every. single. time. I'm not saying this to sound like a preacher. I'm speaking from personal experience. I woke up one day and realized that my relationship hit a dead end and I was settling for way less than what I am worth and I just decided to change my life. I have never been happier. It may sound a little dramatic but I feel like I was given another chance at life. Starting over is scary at first but it ends up being an amazing thing.

I cannot stress how important it is to really love yourself before investing into someone else. By loving yourself I don’t just mean looking in the mirror and liking what you see, although that is a very huge part of it. But I mean reallyyyyy spending time with yourself. Getting to know yourself again. Listening to the music you loved as a child, as a teen, reminiscing on all the moments that made you - You! All the pain you went through that made you stronger and wiser. All the happy times that left you yearning for more. Reaching for all the dreams you had as a kid that you suddenly pushed to the side for college textbooks & a 9-5 or just simply because everyone seems to make you believe they’re too far out of reach. Appreciating all the people who came in your life and left and all the things you learned from them. Travel far - if you’re up for it, I’ve heard solo travel is one of the most empowering things you can do & I plan to do it soon myself. Get to know your family. Ask about their childhood memories and how different society was when they were growing up. Set an example for the young ones. Look at old pictures and relive that exact moment. Meet new people and be open to people you wouldn’t normally associate with. Splurge a little on yourself - after all you work hard for YOU, right? Take up the whole bed when you sleep. Reorganize your room. Clean out your closet. Pick up a hobby or try finding a new one. Do things that scare you. Just be happy and realize how blessed you are. I am telling you, 99% of relationship issues always stem from within. We then start to project our own insecurities onto our partner and it creates a snowball effect. This can all be avoided by learning to truly love yourself and knowing your value.



Moral of the story is: wipe those tears, put on some kicka** lipstick, wear your favorite jeans that make your booty look big, look in the mirror and remind yourself of how much of a bomb a** chick you are. Then conquer the world (:

Sincerely,

A hopeless romantic

Photographed by Robert Asomaning

WHAT I'M WEARING:
VINTAGE SUNNIES / FANTASEYES
MESH TOP / THRIFT STORE (SIMILAR)
LACED BRALETTE / AERIE
MOM JEANS / ASOS
BLACK BOOTIES / SIMMI SHOES 
FANNY PACK / VINTAGE
ARMY CARGO JACKET / VINTAGE






NYFW: NEW YAWKA STREET STYLE


I can't stress how important comfort is to me. I find that most trends or really cute pieces aren't very comfortable which is why I usually dress simple and don't care much to follow trends. It's also why I only wear like 20% of the clothes I own haha. If the fit is complimentary to your figure and comfortable, ISSA GO! 



This look is perfect for those days you want to effortlessly slay. An oversized hoodie worn as a dress is comfy AF, you can shake your booty freely, and it's perfect for those days when the weather is the perfect mix between warm and cool. I wore a pair of black spandex shorts underneath to cover up the goodies. Black booties are a simple and sleek way to elevate the look. If you're having a bad hair day or just want a more urban look, throw on a dad cap. 



I am loving the camo + orange combo so much right now. A vibrant orange is the perfect contrast to muted green hues for any street wear look. I loveeee this "New Yawka" cap designed by my friend Rob Manuchi for his brand, Manuchi. I think all New Yorkers are a little ethnocentric but I think we deserve to be. New York is really a special place that not everyone is cut out for. Make sure to check out his stuff and stay up to date with him for new releases & events! 


 New Yawka cap by Manuchi | Orange hooded sweatshirt dress | Black Booties | Iridescent Shield sunnies

Shot by K Visionary

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Brittany Jade

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FOREVER YOUNG FT. BOB'S LIQUOR STORE




I think we can all agree that growing up isn't an easy thing. Scraped knees turn into broken hearts. Band aids turn into alcohol. Time outs turn into getting kicked out. Friendships were so innocent and you could never imagine your best friend hurting you. Boys had cooties. Our parents were super heroes in our eyes. Our biggest concern was who was going to jump first when playing jump rope at lunch. Rock, Paper, Scissors solved all our problems. We were all in such a rush to grow up, little did we know we were living the best years of our lives.











The hardest part of growing up for me is finding balance. Finding the right balance between working and playing, giving love and receiving love, drinking enough water, fruits and veggies and still satisfying my sweet tooth. Below are some points I try to stick to every day to help me feel like I'm getting the hang of this thing.

Work hard but take some time to have fun. Go out with your friends on the weekend, go go-karting, jump out of a plane. Whatever floats your boat.

Get dolled up some days but other days walk around your house with nothing but a big tee on, no makeup, hair a mess.

Make time for your loved ones but take time for yourself too.

Love hard. But also learn how to receive it. From friends, family, your significant other and even strangers (we forget this one the most.) Don't let a heartbreak make you close yourself off forever. Don't be afraid to be open again.

Forgive for your own peace of mind and because we're all only human. But never settle for less than you deserve. It's ok to remove people from your life even though you still have love for them if they're not good for you.

Go to the club and turn up some nights but on others shut off all distractions and meditate 

Drink that green juice but also eat that ice cream (How can you say no to cookies N' cream?)

Clean your room but also dance around it in your underwear like no one is watching.

Sing in the shower.

Jump off the cliff.

Swing on the swings at the playground.

Scream at the top of your lungs. ( I really do this sometimes - it helps let off some steam. Lmao)

Be open to new opportunities and people but know when to say 'No'.











 Tees from Bob's Liquor Store


I think the most important lesson to learn about growing up is to love yourself. Love your own company. Learn to look in the mirror and tell yourself how great and blessed you are. Learn to not depend on others for your happiness. Learn to do things on your own, from cooking and cleaning to going out to eat and to the gym. Learn to forgive people for their mistakes no matter how bad they hurt you, because at the bottom of it all the issue isn't you. It's them. Learn to be ok in complete silence. Learn to be ok in complete chaos. Just try to take lessons away from every single thing you go through and every person you come in contact with. 

Moral of the story: always keep your true kid at heart alive.


Photography by Elizabeth Malave

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Brittany Jade

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TRAVEL DIARY: JAMAICA

My last trip for the Summer (I think) was to the beautiful island of Jamaica. I was lucky enough to experience it with two of my best friends and a bunch of other amazing people. Jamaica has always been on the top of my list of places to visit. I love the culture. The food is delicious, the music gives me a high that I can't compare to anything else and the people are so open and loving. The moment I stepped foot off the plane I felt the calm energy the island boasts. I knew it was going to be a great experience. So let's dive right in.



Day 1:
I flew in with my best friend Celeste. We landed around 1030am and waited for our ride at the airport. It was one of the most comfy flights I've ever taken. I had an "even more space" seat that they bumped me up to for free and they had a whole list of movies to choose from. The ride to the hotel though, was nowhere near as enjoyable. We were packed out in a beaten down car with my huge suitcase stuck between us. It felt like it was 100 degrees, no AC, and with traffic it took us nearly 3 hours to get to the resort. We stayed at the ClubHotel Ru Negril  , which is an all inclusive resort located on the strip in Negril. 




When we arrived we got settled into our room, freshened up, took some shots and went straight to the resort beach. The water was crystal clear and so warm you could just lay there foreverrrrrr. We took the rest of the day to relax around the resort and we definitely took advantage of the swim up pool bar.





My Best friend Celeste, Check out her vlog of our trip here & don't forget to subscribe to her channel!



Day 2: 
We ate breakfast at the buffet (disgusting.) Then we headed to Rick's Cafe to go cliff jumping. I was told that the food is very expensive and totally not worth it so we stopped at a local jerk shack to grab food on the way. One of our friends is from Jamaica so he took care of us and made sure we weren't taken advantage of because, clearly, were not from there. I ordered stew chicken and we sat at a table by the water to eat which was pretty much everything I imagined it would be. I'm a huge fan of Caribbean food. There's a few spots in Brooklyn that are my go-to's so I definitely had high expectations for the food in Jamaica. The food on the resort fell extremely short, but this place in particular was AHMAZINGGGG! 

How to make water shoes look cute 101









Rick's Cafe had a beautiful view with the most vibrant blue water I've ever seen. It was extremely salty though which left us dehydrated, exhausted and with dry skin and hair. I definitely recommend bringing some lotion and conditioner or moisturizer to apply after in order to avoid this problem. There were cliffs at three different heights to jump from. I'm becoming a punk the older I get so you know I only jumped from the shortest one haha! I used to be so fearless and make fun of my mom for being such a scaredy cat when it came to thrill seeking activities, but truthfully I'm slowly becoming her. Why do we love to do things that make us feel like we might die? Such strange creatures we are lmao. 






Once we left Rick's Cafe we headed to the beach to hop on a glass bottom boat to go snorkeling. I've been snorkeling once before in Mexico and I hated it because my brother kept throwing bread near me so all the fish could swarm me. This time was much more enjoyable. The ocean is really an entirely different ecosystem that we're foreign to. It amazes me seeing and learning about all the different life forms down there. There were see urchins EVERYWHERE! I guess they protect their territory, like gangs lmao. After snorkeling for about 30-45 minutes we headed to explore a nearby private island. We walked from one end to the other BAREFOOT. Once I got past the initial "ick" feelings I felt so free. It was amazing and the sun was starting to set so that just topped it all off. Did I forget to mention we were lighting up literally every where? lol it's such a normal part of Jamaican culture, it's probably why everyone there is so chill and loving. I would love to see what America would be like if recreational marijuana use became a normal thing. I predict it will happen within the next ten years. 



Me, Celeste (center), Briggett (right)


Snorkeling finds (We threw him back in after)

On the shore of the private island

Taking in all this beauty






No words.


Day 3:
We were planning to hang around the resort because we were pretty worn out from the previous day's adventures but my friends' family was going to this natural spring and they invited us so we figured why not?! One of my main objectives on every trip I take is to experience the place as the locals do more than what is typical of tourists. We were lucky enough to link up with a bunch of people from Jamaica who we trusted and we definitely got to experience more than the tourist-y attractions. 

Enjoying the ice cold spring water on this 95 degree day



Because I like to climb shit


Driving along the streets looking out the windows at the tiny houses that these people live in and even the businesses was so humbling. To think that these people barely have electricity, gas, air conditioning and even bathrooms for some is insane. Yet they are still some of the happiest and most loving people in the world. It just goes to show that you don't need more to be happy, simplicity is beauty. When we got back to the hotel it started pouring so we waited for it to stop to get dinner. Dinner was gross, again ): My friends went out to the club later that night I ended up knocking out right after dinner (pretty much every night, I know..I'm a grandma.)


Space buns are a go-to when my hair is wet and unruly. Sunnies from Fantaseyes






Day 4:
We finally got to hang out around the resort for the day. We spent most of our time at the swim up pool bar. We met some cool people and drank a little too much just as you're supposed to when you're on an all inclusive vacation. Later that evening we went to our friend's family party about 20 minutes from the resort. It was so dope being able to be apart of real Jamaican culture and events. Anyone who knows me knows how much I love Jamaican culture. The music, the food, the people, everything about it intrigues me. Especially the music and the food. I grew up listening to Bob Marley because my dad was a huge fan of his (not that my dad was in my life much - I'll get to that in another post.) 











Disgusting flaming shots


Gyal you a party animal lmao


Change of outfit for the family party




Day 5: 
This was our last full day in Jamaica *sad face.* We spent the day around the resort again. This time it was Jamaica's Independence Day so there was a bunch of activities and amazing food around the resort. We had the best seafood paella on the beach and fresh coconut water.. OH.. MY... GOD. 



After we ate me and one of my friends went kayaking. Once we got out far, we just sat there for a while taking it all in. It was so amazing to sit in the middle of this blue water and just BE. No worries about work, or family drama or boyfriends or anything. We felt so blessed to be there in that exact moment. 


















This was the first trip I ever took with my friends - besides our usual trips to ATL to all reunite. I've known these girls pretty much my entire life, we've been best friends for over 10 years now. We all don't come from much. We come from the shlums of Shaolin as we like to say lol. Our parents have always busted their asses to make sure we lived a better life than they did and we can proudly and humbly say that we are doing exactly that. At 22-23 years old we're all pretty much supporting ourselves, and working endlessly to achieve all our goals. We don't get to see each other often - Briggett lives in Florida, Sam (who wasn't able to make it o the trip) lives in Atlanta, and Celeste lives right around the corner from me in Staten Island - but whenever we do link up its like we were never apart. I can go on and on about my friendship with these girls & just friendship in general but I'll leave that for another post as well. To put it simply, I've enjoyed every minute I spent growing with these girls and to be able to experience the beauty of Jamaica with them was an absolute blessing. We plan tot take annual girls trips - a tradition I really hope we keep even when we get married and have kids. 

I really hope you enjoyed this little glimpse of my trip to Jamaica. Follow me on Instagram to stay up to date with me! (:

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