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Charlemagne the God once said, "the best thing to do when you're feeling stuck is to reconnect with your roots" in his New York Time's bestseller titled Black Privilege and thats exactly what I did this past weekend. Side note: this was a great inspirational read and blunt af, which goes without saying because it is written by Charlemagne. I definitely recommend reading it if you're looking for some motivation. So lately I've been feeling really stuck. I know that it is mostly because I have extremely high standards for myself and I always look to where I want to be rather than how far I've come - something I'm learning to be more mindful of. It's so important to stop for a second and just congratulate yourself for all your accomplishments and perseverance. I'm 23 years old with a good job with salary and benefits, supporting myself (in NYC, one of THE hardest cities to make it in), I have loving friends, family and boyfriend (yes, we're back together - more on that later.) I'm in good health and I have multiple hustles to rely on and engage in.
I'm all about promoting positive vibes and only surrounding myself with them. I preach on social media all the time about "good vibes only and positivity" and every morning when I wake up the first thing I do is thank God for another day and open myself up to all the blessings the day has in store for me. BUTTTTTT I'm going to play devils advocate real quick. Being so in tune and an over achiever can really but you in the ass sometimes. I'd be lying if I said I'm happy and positive all the time. I definitely strive to be. That's probably my biggest goal in life actually and for some reason it always seems so hard to keep a hold of. 

Most people don't expose the ugly truth on social media - I mean it isn't exactly aesthetically pleasing. We like to promote this fantasy image that our lives are all perfectly planned out with dope outfits everyday, hair makeup and nails always perfect, food so beautiful you almost don't wanna eat it, perfect relationships and friendships and so on. But lezzz be honest here. My face isn't always beat, I go way too long without getting a fill in, my hair is not always on point , sometimes I live off of cereal and eggs and I'm definitely not always happy-go-lucky. I'm so hard on myself. I criticize myself for everything little thing I do and think. I never feel like I'm doing enough, making enough money, reaching out to friends, family and networking enough. Sometimes I tell myself that when I'm making enough money to have financial freedom then things will fall into place. But do I really have to wait that long? Can I really not be happy with where I currently am? I think in a way I'm scared to let myself be truly happy because I may get comfortable - and good things don't ever come from comfort zones. I'm scared of failure and I'm scared of struggling like my family always has. I feel so much pressure to succeed because of that - because I don't have a safety net to fall back on. Because I want to get my family out the hood and introduce them to things they've only dreamed of.

Amidst all the day to day stress and tasks, I tend to lose my balance. I focus too much on work and forget to take a second to breathe. I can easily lose inspiration because my mind is going a mile a minute. This is when I begin to feel stuck. I start slacking on my Instagram posts, my shoots and my work in general - first world problems, I know. In turn I get more frustrated and it becomes a nasty cycle. I always try to find new ways to pull myself out of these ruts. Below are some of the things that have worked for me 

1. Reconnecting with my roots. In this case, this meant taking a spontaneous trip to (one) of my motherlands - Puerto Rico. Sometimes going back to your childhood neighborhood, visiting family, or hopping on a flight to your motherland is all you need to realign your mind, body and spirit.

2. Water. Drink a lot of it. Swim in it. Float in it. There's something so calming about feeling weightless in a body of water or just watching it fall. I got to bask in this beautiful waterfall, La Mina Falls in El Yunque National Rainforest in Puerto Rico.

3. Love. Give it but most importantly receive it. Have patience and understanding with all people in your life from the people closest to you to the strangers who accidentally bump you on your way to work. We're all fighting a battle nobody knows about. If we all treated each other with genuine love the world would be a much better place.

4. Look in the mirror. Every single day. Face your fears. Face the truth. Even if it hurts. Reevaluate your decisions and your thoughts and figure out how to improve them.

5. Most importantly, treat yourself with love. Speak positive affirmations throughout the day. Treat yourself - to a spa day, a restaurant you've been wanting to go to, a new outfit you've been eying, whatever it is that makes you happy. What I usually do is each week I will treat myself to something special every Friday. Whether its a fancy lunch/dinner, new pair of shoes, or a fun activity. It's a nice way of congratulating yourself for the hard work you've put in throughout the week.

La Coca Falls

El Yunque National Forest, Puerto Rico

La Mina Falls, Puerto Rico

El Pescador Restaurant

3lb lobster with coconut curry rice & cilantro rice

El San Juan Resort, Puerto Rico

Isla Verda Beach, Puerto Rico

Right after getting beat up by hail on jet skis

I take too many pics of him lol

If you've made it to the end of this post, first I wanna thank you for engaging in all my rambling. This is pretty much my therapy right now - since its nearly impossible to find a actual therapist HAHA. I figured I'd share a lot more of my thoughts with you guys rather than just posting about my outfits because truthfully I'm a really deep person and my styling is only a surface-deep thing. I want to connect with people and hopefully inspire someone.

I really hope you enjoyed this post. Stay tunes for a follow up post on how to make the most of your trip to Puerto Rico.

Thanks for reading!


Brittany Jade


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