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Total disclaimer: This post isn't mean to bash anyone who dreams of becoming a nurse or a teach or a firefighter living the 'All American Dream'. In fact, i'm quite envious of people who can be extremely happy and content with such things. Unfortunately, some of us are just built differently. No matter how hard we try to conform and do what is expected of us or normalized by society, we never feel complete. We need more. 

This is for my fellow free spirits. The ones who can't seem to wake up at 7am for their 9-5 no matter how many alarms they set or how early they try to get to bed. The ones who constantly need to be creating or innovating. The ones who's brains move faster than lightning with so many ideas that they can't even image executing them all in one life time. The ones who feel so disconnected from the world and misunderstood by the people around them. The ones who know they aren't meant to work for someone else's dream - but to chase their own.

When your goal is to not live an ordinary life but to live an extraordinary life, the sacrifices are exponential. Success is a lonely road.

Now, you have two options: 

1. You can follow the beaten path and have plenty time set aside for friends and family and recreational activities but your personal growth will be stunted. You can only ever go so far, make so much money, experience so much the world has to offer. You'll be working a dead end job with a cap on how much money you can make each year. Now I use the term "dead end" very loosely. Many people might think of being the head of a department in a Fortune 500 company is the greatest of achievements, and to some the security that this provides is more than enough to sustain and fulfill them, but the people who i'm talking to know that they will never be content with this. You make an annual salary and that is their way of saying "you are only worth this much to us, nothing more." And you will NEVER make more than that so long as that is your given salary.  It doesn't matter if you're 15 with kids or 30 - age isn't the subject here - the point is that so many people give up on themselves and their own dreams and aspirations to settle for comfort. And as I like to say, comfort is the cousin of death. 

2. Or you can take the road less traveled. Follow your dreams, travel the world, do what scares you, become an entrepreneur, do the unthinkable, live the life everyone only dreams of. But this will require a lot more sacrifice. You will lose people, and Im not just talking about a toxic boyfriend, but you will lose the people closest to you. They'll likely still be in your life and you'll see each other on special occasions but on the regular it will feel like they are strangers. If they aren't going down a similar route in life, you will feel very disconnected from them and you will have to fight a long battle of trying to find balance in maintaining a fulfilling relationship with these people.
It will hurt. 
It will drive you crazy.
You will cry.
You will feel lonely.
You will feel broken.
You will feel misplaced and lost.
You will miss out on quality time with loved ones.
You will miss your best friends’ birthdays and your niece's dance recital.
You may even be looked at as selfish or condescending at times.
You will feel depressed.
You will feel anxious.
You will feel like shit for having to miss out on things and time spent with loved ones.
You will beat yourself up about not getting enough sleep most nights or eating well.
You will never feel like you're doing enough and the To-Do-Lists will seem to never end.

BUT this is where the key is - you have to be so obsessed with your dream that you pull yourself out of these holes with a new outlook on life each time. Learn something from every struggle you go through. And trust me, you will go through a lot. You have to love and believe in yourself so much that other people's opinions roll right off you because you know your heart is pure and your mind is set on the right things. I am only just getting started on my journey and I have been faced with SO many of these battles already. You will eventually find a better balance between working, self care, quality time with loved ones, and everything else you have on your plate. You will start to feel less guilty for missing out on things because you will reach a level of understanding that this is your calling and some people will never understand what it takes. AND THAT IS OK! It's not meant for everyone to understand or else everyone would do it, too. Keep the people around who still show you love and support and get rid of the nay-sayers. They are detrimental to the dream. They will try and project their fears onto you because they weren't courageous enough to follow through on their own purpose. You cannot allow this energy into your space because it can easily taint you. You can't afford to doubt yourself. Commit to the dream and keep your focus on that, not letting anything deter you from it.

You have to be prepared for these internal struggles that will literally try to eat you alive. You have to keep going.  
You'll learn to celebrate your own victories and sometimes not even mention it to other people because nobody can wish bad on something they know nothing about. It's sad but this is the reality - many people will not be genuinely happy for you if you're doing more or better than them. Remember that their opinion is none of your business and just continue getting down to business.

This road has never been paved before and to do so requires A LOT of work. You will shed old layers of yourself to make room for new ones. This includes people, habits, opinions, appearances, and so on. It will be extremely uncomfortable at times but this is where you remind yourself how bad you want it. 

They don’t call it the lonely road for no reason.

I will soon embark on a new and exciting adventure of my own and I can't wait to share it with you guys. Stay tuned!

What I'm Wearing 
Jacket (Forever 21) // High waist denim jeans (Zara)
Red booties (Zara) // Black Puffer Coat (Primark)

Photography by Jimmy Noble

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